Notes To My Younger Self

Get Off The Treadmill

We are all a work in progress. While I don’t believe in regrets, if I had to do things over again, here’s some of what I’d tell my younger self.

1. Lift Weights
I learned later in life that it’s not just about cardio when you hit the gym. Find a program you like, and make lifting weights part of the routine. You’ll feel stronger and healthier, and it will help keep your body more fit as you get older.

2. Chill
The hardest of all—still haven’t mastered it.

3. Get a Math Tutor
I always beat myself up for not doing well in school, especially in math and science. I didn't like the subjects, so I didn’t want to focus on them. I’d tell myself to get a tutor to make it through the classes without the extra stress.

4. Give Yourself Permission to Do Nothing
In my early years in New York, I felt pressure to always be on and always be moving. Give yourself permission to do nothing. Take a deep breath. Sleep in. Relax. It’s all going to be okay.

5. Master the At-Home Blowout
I’ve never quite gotten the hang of blowing out my own hair—it never looks as good as when I leave the salon. Ask someone to teach you how, get the right tools, and practice until you master it at home. Then you won’t be so dependent on others when you get older. I feel like I spend so much time in a hair salon.

6. Don’t Drop Out of Typing Class
I’m the first to admit I’m awful at typing. I still use a pen and paper to do most of my work. Do not drop out of typing class—this is one skill that will save you a lot of time (and effort) over the years.

7. It’s OK to Be You
It took a while—until my mid-30s—to really understand that I just needed to be me. I learned to love myself exactly as I was: five feet tall, not a model, but a makeup artist who was also a suburban mom. Focus on your life, family, and priorities. It’s OK to be you. Stop comparing yourself to others.

8. Learn to Compartmentalize
I’ve always been someone who has worn many hats: entrepreneur, boss, editor-in-chief, makeup artist, daughter, sister, friend, mother, and wife. Juggling all of it can be difficult. I would tell my younger self to learn to compartmentalize your life, and then focus on and devote time to each of these important areas. It will help keep you balanced without feeling overwhelmed.

9. Make Your Bed
I always hated this chore, but I realize now how important it is to make your bed every day. Starting off the day by accomplishing this simple task helps build character and discipline.

10. You’re Way Cuter Than You Think
As a kid, I spent too much time wanting to look like other people—whether they were the cheerleaders, gymnasts, or the models and cool girls who were tall, skinny, blonde, and blue-eyed—which I definitely was not. Let go of the idea that you need to fit into this mold and embrace your features. You are way cuter than you think.